Living with fibroids

Sometimes problems such as heavy periods, cramps and period pains are dismissed as being a "normal" part of life for women, both by others and the women experiencing these symptoms themselves. It can be difficult to decide when these problems are no longer normal and justify going to see a doctor. Although menstrual periods are a part of every woman’s life, severe menstrual problems aren’t normal. Women don’t have to simply put up with them – they can usually be treated effectively. So getting medical advice is a good idea, and often helpful.

Fibroids that don’t cause any noticeable symptoms are often discovered during gynecological examinations done for other reasons Many women go directly to their gynecologist to find out why they are in pain and because they are worried that they may have a serious illness. They often aren’t aware that fibroids are benign (non-cancerous). So it’s very important to know that fibroids aren’t cancerous and also can’t turn into cancer.

Bad period pain, heavy periods and other symptoms like urinary incontinence or exhaustion can affect your personal and working life, reducing your overall quality of life. Regularly not being able to go to work because of these problems often makes women feel guilty for letting their colleagues or boss down, or they might end up in difficult or uncomfortable situations at work. They may often have to cancel private gatherings or other activities too.

Heavy periods can be very taxing. Losing so much blood can make you feel tired and affect your concentration and general performance. But it’s not only the physical effects that can be a problem. Women may feel embarrassed or sometimes even frightened by heavy periods. Some have the unpleasant feeling that the blood is literally flowing out of them. Some have the unpleasant feeling that the blood is literally flowing out of them. They may then avoid leaving the house and cancel appointments on those days.

Severe symptoms can make you feel down, irritable and grumpy. That can then have an effect on relationships, especially as the symptoms often reduce sexual desire. If your partner feels rejected or isn’t very understanding, it can easily lead to arguments. Sex can be painful for some women, so they may not want to have sex as often or perhaps try to avoid it completely. Being caring and talking openly is then important for both partners.

Women who have large or a particularly high number of fibroids might feel differently about their bodies, and many generally feel less attractive. Some feel as though they have something “alien” and uncontrollable inside them. Putting on weight for no apparent reason or looking pregnant can be particularly unpleasant.

The symptoms might go away completely from treatment with hormones or surgery. But therapy isn’t always successful. It sometimes only helps for a short time, and each type of treatment has its own drawbacks. Weighing the risks and benefits isn’t always easy, but there’s no need to rush into a decision: You can take your time to work out which symptoms are the worst for you, and then look into which treatment offers the best chances of relieving them.

Unsuccessful treatment can be disheartening, especially if it also causes unpleasant side effects. For some women it turns into a roller-coaster of emotions, between hope and disappointment. Others worry that the fibroids might come back after an operation, or that an operation will cause other problems. In addition to advice from doctors, the experiences and recommendations of friends and relatives often also play a role when trying to decide on a treatment. It can become tricky if those people are worried and – with the best of intentions – pressure you into choosing a particular treatment.

The choice of treatment will very much depend on whether you would like to have (more) children. Some of the treatment options aren’t suitable for women who want to become pregnant. Many have a contraceptive effect, reduce fertility or increase the risk of a miscarriage. Hysterectomy (surgical removal of the womb) isn’t an option if you still want to have children.

Doctors sometimes simply assume that women who are over 40 no longer want children. And some doctors still hold the once widespread opinion that the womb is an unnecessary organ for women who don’t want to have children. But it can be an important part of a woman’s body and how she feels about herself as a woman. Hysterectomies can also sometimes cause problems such as a weak bladder. But many women who have this operation feel relieved and very happy to no longer have their period and the fibroid symptoms.

There are several other things you can do to better deal with the symptoms of fibroids in everyday life. Many women find it helpful to be able to control their symptoms. They try to find out how to keep the effects to a minimum in daily life. One option is to keep a close eye on the symptoms, for example by writing them down in a diary. If you can see when the different symptoms occur, it’s easier to develop a strategy to cope with them. That can be very helpful if you have heavy periods, for instance.

Women often also try out various self-help strategies, such as a healthier diet and more physical exercise. They may do yoga or try relaxation techniques. Home remedies such as applying heat to soothe cramps and pain are often used, as well as herbal products, acupuncture and other complementary therapies. However, there is little good-quality research on these approaches, so it’s difficult to say whether they help in the treatment of fibroids.

But that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth trying to find out for yourself what helps you. That may involve talking to other women with the same problems, for instance on the internet, with friends and family, or in support groups. This can also be helpful in preparing to talk to doctors, or in finding a doctor who takes your needs and preferences into account.