My wife has been an inspiration to me
I do sometimes worry about finding out that I have abnormal PSA levels, but I’m much more relaxed and open about it all nowadays. My wife had breast cancer, and she had a very positive attitude to life throughout the whole thing. I really admire her approach and have learned a lot from her. She has been an inspiration to me. If my PSA levels turn out to be too high, I would have to make the most of things. I’m turning 70 soon and know that I’m not going to live forever.
I talk to my wife about the tests. We’re much more open about these things since she had breast cancer. We talk to our children about it too. We’re hoping to pass this open attitude on to them.
Some men find the rectal and ultrasound examinations unpleasant. I was already used to it because I used to have anal infections due to a chronic health problem, so it doesn’t bother me that much anymore. But it’s still hard, especially if you go to the appointment thinking that it will be unpleasant. That makes you more tense and then it isn’t very pleasant. It is an unpleasant feeling, and I don’t like it when a female assistant is in the room with us. My urologist is understanding, and always asks her to leave the room.
The doctor’s approach makes all the difference! Some doctors are gentle and kind, and some would be better off working in a slaughterhouse! If I don’t get on with a doctor, don’t like the way he does his job or if I don’t like him, I just go to another doctor. I switch doctor’s practices if I don’t feel I’m in good hands.
My doctor and I chat during the examinations, and we always make an appointment to discuss the results. He’s really open about everything and that’s very important to me. He points out the negative aspects of diagnostic tests, and has also told me that he would refer me to a special medical center if my results were abnormal. He also explains what he is doing during the tests and examinations. I trust him. I wouldn’t even consider sticking with a doctor who doesn’t explain things to me or answer my questions properly.