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I’ve had to accept that some things can’t be cured

Photo of a woman climbing the stairs

Irene, 67 years old:

"Sometimes I accept the pain and sometimes I feel like crawling into a corner and crying."

I was about 48 years old when the problems started. I had back ache so I went to the doctor at some point, and was diagnosed with a slipped disk. I was then treated in hospital and they elevated my legs. But that only helped for a short while. They then injected a numbing medication. The injections didn’t work though, so I had surgery. I felt good for a while then. But after a few weeks the pain started coming back. At first the doctors didn’t understand why. They now think that the scar from my operation started pressing against the nerve root, causing pain again.

I couldn’t really sit. For instance, I couldn’t go out for a meal in a restaurant any more. By the time the food had arrived, I had already had to get up several times, and always had to shift my weight from one butt cheek to the other. I couldn’t stand the pain otherwise. It doesn’t put you in a great mood and you can’t really carry on a conversation either, you’re so distracted by the pain. That was a difficult time.

And then my husband died. I felt really depressed and anxious. He always used to be good at helping me cope with my back pain. When he was no longer around I still had an office job, but I was off sick quite a lot. My health insurance then suggested that I retire. Suddenly being all alone and not being able to work anymore either is tough. I sometimes found it very hard to cope. But I managed.

Seeing a pain specialist was important to me

I had to learn to ask others for help

I find it important to be able to talk about things

Acknowledgment

Our real-life stories summarize interviews with people who are affected by the medical condition. Our interview partners have given us permission to publish their stories. We would like to express our sincere thanks to them.

The real-life stories give an insight into how other people cope and live with a medical condition. Their opinions and comments are not recommendations by IQWiG.

Please note: The names of our interview partners have been changed to protect their identity. The photos are of models.

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Updated on December 5, 2022

Next planned update: 2025

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Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care (IQWiG, Germany)

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