He absolutely refused to accept that he was no longer able to drive
Shutting down our business, ending his career, selling our house and moving didn’t really bother my husband much. But he absolutely refused to accept that he should no longer drive his car. None of our pleas had any effect, so my son felt he had no choice but to take away his father’s driving license. The driving itself wasn’t a problem yet, but his ability to react quickly in stressful traffic situations became unpredictable.
I spoke openly about my husband’s illness because his friends and business partners had also noticed a change in his behavior. My children couldn’t understand why I was so open about it at first, but it made my life a lot, lot easier. Everyone understood that he was ill, and not crazy, when he started acting a bit strange. I moved out of our bedroom based on the excuse that I had a cold. My nose was blocked and my cough disturbed him. Moving out was a big relief for me because he had started to neglect his personal hygiene. He always wore the same clothes and would get all defensive if I tried to make him change them. He would say things like ‘Stop nagging, you’re worse than my wife!’, so I started secretly replacing his old underwear, socks and trousers with clean clothes whenever he was in the shower or asleep.