If you feel that you are losing strength and you might not have much time left, it can be a relief to start preparing to say goodbye to loved ones and talk to them about what is important to you. It can also be helpful to start thinking about medical care and support towards the end of your life.
Most women feel utter despair if their breast cancer gets worse and it is thought that they may not have much time left to live. But they may also experience feelings like depression, insecurity, anxiety or anger and aggression, all of which can come and go. For many women it is painful beyond description to no longer be able to realize the plans they had for their lives, see their children and grandchildren grow up, or grow old with their partner and friends. They may also worry that they will be a burden to others in their last phase of life.
Every woman experiences this situation differently. Some women feel the need to face the issue of death and saying goodbye, and want to talk about it. Others try to avoid thinking about the finite nature of their life, or feel torn. But there is no right or wrong way to go about it. The important thing is that you find a path that is right for you, and which fulfills your needs and wishes. The following considerations might help you find your own individual path while getting the support you need.
It can be a relief to start preparing for the end of your life and talk to loved ones about what is important to you. Everyone involved may need courage to do this. But these talks often foster a special kind of closeness and bonding. You may feel more at ease and secure, and your loved ones may be comforted by the thought of being there for you and being close to you.
You might, for instance, talk with them about whether being cared for at home is an option and if they feel able to do it, or whether being cared for in a hospice or a hospital would be the right option for you and those close to you. Some towns have day hospitals or day hospices that provide help here as well. Your doctors can also offer advice when considering these options. Consulting voluntary workers or experts with experience in grief counseling and terminal care may help too.