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Hugh, 56 years old

“I stood by my wife and saw how the treatment was making her weaker. That was the hardest part for me because I felt like I couldn’t do anything.”

When my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, a whole lot came crashing down on us. At first we didn’t really have the time to come to grips with it. My wife was reassured again and again that there were good treatment options and that things would turn out fine.

After a certain amount of time the treatment did seem to end successfully. At that point we thought: now we’re going to start living again. And that’s what we did. We travelled a lot and did things that we had always put off a bit before. We still led a normal life, just a little more intensely than we had before.

Five years later, the cancer returned: she was diagnosed with a recurrence. This news really pulled the rug from under our feet. After the first treatment I had been really hopeful, and now this. For the first time I thought I might be on my own someday.

They wanted us to decide at once

I blamed myself

I wanted to make all of the decisions for her

You’re finally starting to treat me like a normal person again

Work is less important to me now

Acknowledgment

Our real-life stories summarize interviews with people who are affected by the medical condition. Our interview partners have given us permission to publish their stories. We would like to express our sincere thanks to them.

The real-life stories give an insight into how other people cope and live with a medical condition. Their opinions and comments are not recommendations by IQWiG.

Please note: The names of our interview partners have been changed to protect their identity. The photos are of models.

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Updated on January 23, 2024

Next planned update: 2027

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Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care (IQWiG, Germany)

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